Thar She Blows!

 

Several observers have pointed out that at one point during the Depp-Heard defamation trial, it looks as though Amber Heard takes a snort of cocaine while on the stand. She buries her nose only partially in a handkerchief, holds one nostril closed, then removes the handkerchief and wipes her nose with her hand. 

I think it is just what it looks like.

Heard also, one day, after testifying, and instructed by the judge to return to her seat with her lawyers, instead walked out of the courtroom. 

Some narcissists will deliberately engage in “reckless behavior.” We see here an example. This is to show their contempt for those around them. It declares their superiority.

This may be a sign Heard expects to lose the case. So she must show her contempt. Narcissists tend to do this only when they feel vulnerable.

Why did Heard torture Depp?

First, out of envy. In order to be the centre of attention, the narcissist must pull down anyone else getting attention. They must destroy all that is noble, fine, and beautiful.

Second, Heard also tortured Depp for enjoyment. Narcissists like making people feel bad, and feed, vampire-like, off the emotion. It is an exercise in power and control.

The Triel of the Century?

 

Apparently, everyone is glued to the Depp-Heard defamation trial. Polls show more interest in it than in COVID, or inflation, or Ukraine.

Normally, I do not follow celebrity gossip. I believe celebrities have the same right to privacy as the rest of us. Gossip is gossip.

But this is different; this has overwhelming redeeming social importance. Amber Heard is a textbook narcissist, as all true narcissists are textbook narcissists, almost interchangeable in their behaviour. I have hopes that now, for the first time, the general public will have clear idea of what a narcissist is like. And it looks like a large majority of the public gets it now, as they see it unfold on the stand.

 We may be past nonsense notions like calling Donald Trump a narcissist. Narcissism is not mere self-confidence.

We will perhaps also be past the destructive and madly prejudiced notion that only men abuse, or that we should “believe all women.”

We see that Heard has no morals whatsoever. There are, it seems to me, no degrees of narcissism, or, to use its proper name, viciousness. That is a switch set either on or off. You can’t get worse than no morals.  If an individual turns the switch, which they do willfully, there is nothing any longer to appeal to in them; there is no spark left of humanity.

This is why there must be a hell. 

Amber See, Amber Do

 

Many are noticing that Amber Heard keeps mimicking Johnny Depp’s clothing choices in their current defamation trial. And many are wondering why. Is she playing some kind of mind game?

No; why would Depp care?

We owe a debt to Depp for bringing this to trial. He has exposed the fact that women abuse men. Our system is grotesquely biased against men, to the extent that it is actually a commonly held opinion that men are always abusers, and women always victims. An opinion that enables abuse. This public trial, along with recent and increasing revelations about Jada ad Will Smith, may help redress that balance.

Amber’s clothing choices are not hard to decipher if you know much about narcissists. 

Depositions show that she used to commonly criticize Depp for lacking style.

If her own actions in mimicking him do not disprove this, any objective observer should see the absurdity of the charge. Nobody has more sartorial style than Depp. 

Narcissists are motivated by envy. They must be the centre of everything; so nobody is allowed to be better than them at anything. Therefore they will criticize their victim for whatever in the latter is most admirable; they will want to deny it.

At the same time, they will mimic it, in hopes of appropriating thunder; of making themselves the centre of attention instead. People were looking at Depp; she wanted them to look at her.

Narcissists are not complicated. They are childishly simple in their thinking. A good rule is that whatever they say will be the opposite of the truth.

There is a special place in hell for those who, in the face of the evidence, still insist that, if Depp was not the abuser, at least it was a mutually abusive relationship. After all, Depp drank and took drugs. He opened and shut cabinet doors loudly in her presence. He tried to cut himself. He even wrote to a friend that he wanted to drown Amber, set her on fire, and have sex with the corpse.

None of that is abusive. It simply shows the depth of his pain; which he needed to vent or escape without harming her or anyone else. Anyone who does not see this, is a narcissist themselves. For they are apparently incapable of seeing another as human.

Will Smith’s slap at the Oscars is similar, although less admirable. Unable to defend against his narcissistic wife, in a fit of terror and confusion, he misdirected at what seemed a more acceptable target. If he could keep Jada in good humour, she might not lash out at him. In effect, he was taking it out on himself, attempting career suicide.

In the wider society, men are committing suicide in large numbers, and dying of drug overdoses. 

It is time to end the persecution.

Deja Vu All Over Again

 

One of the biggest lies in world literature is Tolstoy’s opening line for Anna Karenina, “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." 

This is the opposite of the truth. Dysfunctional families all follow roughly the same template. 

You can also predict with great reliability that any truly outstanding artist, in whichever art, comes from one.

Johnny Depp rings the changes for us. Some of us will find much of what he says familiar.

It also explains his troubles with Amber Heard. Once you have been victimized by a narcissistic parent, you are primed perfectly to be victimized by a narcissistic lover.