The Cost of Free Love

It is common for young American women to delusionally believe they are “10’s.” A popular topic for videos is some woman of average attractiveness or less insisting to an interviewer that she could have any man she wants. Surveys show the average woman wants a man in the top 10% in terms of wealth and height.

Which leaves a lot of women unmarried in their forties and wondering why no man would “step up” and produce the ring. Are modern men so afraid of responsibility? What happened to all the good men?

Little girls have always been raised with too much self-esteem: assured they are adorable. Feminism, teaching contempt for men, has not helped.

But the biggest causal factor is the modern acceptance and encouragement, since “the pill,” of casual sex. It has given women this false perception of their desirability.

After all, they have all the evidence they need that they are highly desirable. Evolutionary instincts tell men to have sex with as many women as they can. So any young woman of average attractiveness will find she has no trouble attracting attention from men who are “10’s.” Giving her the clear impression that this is her league. She will distain average men. 

And she will keep waiting for that proposal that will not come.

Subtract the casual sex, and this would not happen. Not expecting sex without marriage, young men would no longer swarm women of only average looks. They would largely only pay attention to women they hoped to marry, and women would have a much better idea of their true market value and who their true suitors were. There would be less sex, and more love.

We would have more marriages, more children, a lot fewer bitter older women feeling cheated by men, and a lot fewer young men bitter towards women.

We messed up with the sexual revolution.