A recent survey by Esquire magazine has found that the number one most desirable dinner companion, among American men, is--Condoleeza Rice. And even number two was not Angelina Jolie, Julia Roberts, Jessica Simpson, Jennifer Aniston, or any other currently popular young body of the moment. It was Oprah Winfrey.
This puts paid to the feminist fantasy that men dislike intelligent women, accomplished women, or women with strong personalities. No—beyond a certain point, significant intelligence seems to beat out significant beauty. Although neither Dr. Rice nor Winfrey are exactly hard to look at.
It has ever been so—intelligence, accomplishment, and strength of character have always and everywhere, throughout human history, been the qualities most valued in a wife.
Men are also clearly not, contrary to feminist myth, interested only in sex, or interested only in young women. Why would they be? Sex occupies only a very small amount of the time you spend together—even on a date, let alone in a marriage. When you’re not having sex, what would you talk about?
Men simply differ from most feminists on which women actually are intelligent, accomplished, and strong. Most feminists immediately think of themselves. Most men disagree. And there are few things more unpleasant than spending time with a companion whose ego outstrips her intelligence and accomplishments.
No, madam, if you are having trouble getting anywhere with the opposite sex, odds are it is not because you are too intelligent, or too talented, or have too much personality. The true reason is probably a good deal more obvious.
It is probably not coincidental too that the two most popular dinner dates are both African-American; even though, demographically, the survey respondents must have been 90% non-African-American.
Black American women seem to be fairly unaffected by feminism. As a result, they seem more confident as women, more comfortable in their skins. Asian women have the same advantage, and so seem especially desirable to the average American man. Too many “white” women, by contrast, seem to feel, in the end, that there is something wrong with being a woman. They are not really comfortable in the role; they seem to mimic men. This has been the basic thrust of feminism from the start.
They seem, in the end, weaker, more mentally confused, and less self-assured.