No Love Is Free

 

One of my Chinese students, by chance, brought up another problem with birth control and the current sexual climate that did not occur to me yesterday. He has no desire to spend any time with his classmates, or those of his own age generally, because all they are interested in is hooking up. And this, he rightly sees, is selfish. “Free love” is ultimately profoundly selfish. Aside from taking no thought for possible or eventual children, it sees the partner as an object, no more than a tasty cut of meat. One loves them no more than one loves the cow. It is insensitive to the emotional universe, and deadens the heart within.

As a result, sensitive and intelligent kids like him are left socially isolated. There are no good partners.

Others have also noticed that, given the difference between men and women, “free love” means that women will have sex whenever they want it, but with only about 20% of the men—the most attractive 20%. Who will in turn have little incentive to ever marry and give up this constant attention. So most men get no sex, and most women get no family. Nobody gets companionship.

The Price of "Free Love"

 

I heard a suggestion recently that the birth control pill is causing serious health issues for women. Moreover, this source argued that it disrupts women’s emotional health by interfering with their hormones. 

So how about banning the birth control pill?

It does seem, after all, that the pill and the “sexual revolution” it inspired have turned out to be disastrous on a social level. People have stopped having children. To compensate and just to keep systems and structures going, governments have turned to mass immigration. Mass immigration has begun to cause serious social problems. Not to mention, it will cause the eventual disappearance of the culture, as efficiently as any genocide. Marriages no longer stay together, causing endless grief and financial ruin to many individuals, parents and children, and tremendous expense to society as a whole. Sexually transmitted diseases are rampant, and the risk of some new epidemic like AIDs is high. People crave crazier and crazier, riskier and riskier sexual thrills. Sex for pleasure turns out to be a dangerous addiction: you want more and more and get less and less out of it. Sexual assault and sexual blackmail is everywhere, as the sexes mingle now in daily life and there are no firm rules or boundaries. Trying to prosecute is always “he said/she said.” Injustice is inevitable, and lives are ruined.

Is it time to reconnect sex firmly to childbearing?

Ban the pill, ban abortion. End no-fault divorce. Make adultery illegal.

We are so eager for social experiments; here’s one to try.